Dec. 12, 2018

Vayigash

I am Joseph

The key purpose of any reproof should be to get the person to understand the wrongs that he did. It is not to criticize or embarrass. Joseph’s statement is powerful. It is simple and it makes the point exquisitely. “But his brothers could not answer him because they were left disconcerted before him.” Joseph saw his brothers’ shame and their understanding of his rebuke, and went to them lovingly and said, “It is me.” He told them not be distressed and not to reproach themselves, and to know that it was God’s will that sent him to Egypt before them so that they would survive the famine.

When we give our children reproof we need to follow up with loving ways. Little children need boundaries and need to be reprimanded for unbecoming behavior. They also need to see your love and know that their actions may be unloving but they are not.

This is not any different with adult children. We watch them conduct their lives and don’t want to interfere. But sometimes we need to express our opinions. Why do we feel such an urgent need to tell them what we think? I ask myself this. Am I still trying to set the boundaries for my children? Am I trying to mold them into replicas of me? Do I have the answers as to how they should live?

I’ve thought about this a lot and found that when my children do something that I don’t approve of, I just want to help them make their lives easier. Most of the things they are going through, I experienced. I want them to learn without some of the pain. We can learn from Joseph. Say something, ONCE, in a short concise statement and then show love and respect.

Yoga—Mountain pose

 

We aim for a healthy mind and a healthy body.

According to the Mayo Clinic website, “Yoga is a mind-body practice that combines stretching exercises, controlled breathing and relaxation. Yoga can help reduce stress.

“Yoga brings together physical and mental disciplines to achieve peacefulness of body and mind, helping you relax and manage stress and anxiety.

“Hatha yoga is a good choice for stress management. Beginners like its slower pace and easier movements. Almost anyone can do it.”

 

Strong pose bringing together physical strength and discipline of mind.

Standing tall.

Feet together.

Raise your arms straight up over your head.

 

Breathe slowly, in and out through your nose.

This is a position of strength and balance.